Stalking self-help

Cyberstalking Guidelines

Although there is no universally accepted definition of "cyberstalking", it can be generally characterized as the use of electronic means to repeatedly engage in the harassment or threatening of another.

There are several types of stalkers; however, the common motivation of each is to exert control of some form over their victims. This behavior can develop from just about any kind of relationship. It may be it may be the result of an online disagreement, or a failed relationship in real life. The anonymity offered by the Internet provides new opportunities for a would-be stalker, since a person's identity can easily be concealed through the use of different ISPs and/or multiple screen names.

For example, recent data indicates a strong link between domestic violence and cyberstalking. "Intimate" cyberstalkers are former spouses/girlfriends/boyfriends who refuse to believe a marriage or relationship has ended. Usually, these individuals were controlling and emotionally/physically abusive during the relationship, and now they seek revenge. Typical behavior often involves anonymously observing the victim's online activities and using the information to threaten or discredit the victim, or posting misinformation about them. This is usually followed by direct intimidation through the use of e-mail or instant messages.

The fact that cyberstalking does not involve physical contact may lead to the misconception that it is less dangerous than "real life" stalking.

The reality is that online stalking CAN readily lead to an offline attack if the situation is not properly dealt with as soon as possible.

The relative danger that a cyberstalker may present depends on several variables, but the MOST critical circumstance is if the person knows enough of your personal information (real identity, phone#, place of business, city and state, etc.) to establish your actual location.

Many stalkers will SAY that they know where you live in an attempt to instill as much fear as possible in their victims.

Unless this person knows you in real life or this information has been inadvertently divulged, it is not likely that this is an actual reality.

However, with the investigative resources now available on the 'net, even the smallest amount of the "right" personal facts can be pieced together to provide detailed location information.

The possibility that this has occurred should be considered very carefully. If unsure, it is best to err on the side of your personal safety by answering "Yes" to the following question.

Do believe that your stalker knows enough personal information to determine your actual location, or are you already experiencing any form of "offline" harassment?

Yes

No (continue with online cyberstalking text)