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What are the risks our children face online?

How can I teach my children about risks online if I have never used the Internet?

How can I tell if something is dangerous to my child or merely offensive?

I hear that the Internet is loaded with criminals. Is that true?

I think that the only way to keep your children safe is to keep them offline. Is that true?

O.K.ay, you convinced me. But I'm not a techie, and I can't even program my VCR. How can I supervise my children online?

I hear there are no laws in cyberspace. Is that true?

I'm afraid that my children will be kidnapped or molested by someone they meet online. How serious a risk is that?

How do I know when my child is ready to use the Internet?

How do I encourage my child to come to me with questions and when things go wrong online?

I taught my children about "Stranger Danger." But how does this work when you're supposed to talk with strangers online?

My children and teens want to chat online, but I hear it's dangerous. What should I do?

My kids don't chat online, but they use Instant Messaging all the time. Is that a problem?

I trust my child not to get into trouble. Is that a mistake?

Who's at risk? Is there a profile of a typical child victim of Internet-related sexual molestation?

How can you find out what information is posted online about your child?

Is there a profile of a typical predator?

My children know not to talk to strangers. I have been teaching them about stranger-danger for many years. I don't believe they would be lured into talking to a predator online. How does this happen?

What is the likelihood of my child meeting an online predator offline? Should I be worried?

My children attend a school that has a Web site They have posted the names and photos of the students at the site. Is that a problem?

What can I do to help my child avoid being a victim of an Internet sexual molester?

What about filtering and blocking software and parental controls? Do they keep your child safe?

What about technology…are there products to help you snoop on your child?

Should I snoop on my children?

Maybe I should just keep them from using the Internet entirely.

But what can I do if I don't understand computers or technology? My children know more than I do about the Internet.

So, what can I do to make my children more Internet-safety-savvy?

What do I do if I suspect my child is involved with an Internet sexual predator?

Whom do I contact to report an Internet sexual predator?

My child told me about their encounters online with someone I suspect is a sexual molester. I understand you want me to report it to law enforcement. But what do I do if I don't want to get law enforcement involved?

What do I do if my child is missing and I suspect that an Internet sexual molester is involved?

Which law enforcement agencies in the United States handle cybercrimes?

What kinds of things are teens really doing online?

I suspect that teens act out online. Is that true?

What's your favorite and most important safety tip?

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Ask Parry! Ask Parry! is a service where Parry Aftab, noted online safety and privacy expert, and Executive Director of WiredSafety.org can answer your questions about online safety, privacy and security, and help you with problems you encounter online. Anything from help finding a safe chat room for your teens, to knowing what to do if the item you bought at auction doesn't arrive as promised.

I hear there are no laws in cyberspace. Is that true?

No. Generally everything that is illegal offline is illegal online. In the United States It's illegal, online and offline, to:

  • entice or coerce a minor to engage in sexually explicit conduct o import or transport obscenity
  • knowingly receive child pornography o advertise child pornography
  • depict minors engaged in sexually explicit conduct (even virtually)
  • depict someone engaged in sexually explicit conduct who appears to be a child
  • advertise or promote sexually explicit conduct by giving the impression that minors are engaged in sexually explicit conduct

The federal laws also protect children against luring or attempts to lure them into an offline meeting for the purposes of performing illegal sexual acts, or coercing them to provide sexually explicit photos of themselves.

This is one of the biggest problems with sexual predators online. While online sexual predators may ultimately want to meet your child face-to-face, in the meantime they often coerce a child into taking and sending to them sexually explicit photos of themselves, and even more often send children sexually explicit photos of themselves. (When cyberpredators coerce or seduce a child into taking sexually provocative pictures of themselves, they violate the law.)

Sexual abuse has always been a very serious crime, but in the past the penalties for child sexual abuse were not as high as they should have been. Thankfully, penalties for conduct involving sexual abuse of children and child pornography have increased over recent years. . In addition, while we don't have cyberpolice just for the Internet, we have units of major law-enforcement agencies who do police cyberspace, and any law enforcement agency who has jurisdiction over the online crime can handle it. The problem isn't the laws, it's getting enough trained law enforcement officials and enough technology and funding to enforce them. We have a special site and group just for law enforcement, called CyberLawEnforcement.org.

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