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Ask Parry! is a service where Parry Aftab, noted online safety and privacy expert, and Executive Director of WiredSafety.org can answer your questions about online safety, privacy and security, and help you with problems you encounter online. Anything from help finding a safe chat room for your teens, to knowing what to do if the item you bought at auction doesn't arrive as promised.
It's your job to teach your children that people they meet online are strangers, no matter how friendly they sound and no matter how long they know them online. If you're close at hand when problems arise, and make it a point to get to know their online friends, the cyberpredator's task will be much harder.
Protecting your children online is like buying an antitheft device for your car. Although it can't completely prevent thieves from stealing your car if they really want to, you may have made it hard enough that they go somewhere else. (And if all parents do the same thing, the cyberpredators will be out of luck everywhere.)
Our children too often believe what others tell them. And when they want to check it out, they go to online profiles posted by the cyberpredator. It's like the old adage "you lie and I'll swear to it," but they can lie and swear to it all by themselves. We need to teach our children not to trust so easily. It's a sad, but necessary, lesson.
Our children have already been taught stranger-danger techniques, but nice people aren't strangers-only hairy, smelly, and dirty ones are. Ask your child to describe a stranger, and you'll see I'm right. (Unfortunately, most cyberpredators don't fit that description at all. Most are educated and successful men.)
