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Ask Parry! is a service where Parry Aftab, noted online safety and privacy expert, and Executive Director of WiredSafety.org can answer your questions about online safety, privacy and security, and help you with problems you encounter online. Anything from help finding a safe chat room for your teens, to knowing what to do if the item you bought at auction doesn't arrive as promised.
Trusting your children is wonderful. But it's irrelevant when it comes to online safety, because the ones you really need to be able to trust are all the other people using the Internet. But those other Internet users shouldn't be trusted to look out for our children's safety. That's our job.
While many of us may trust our children not to access inappropriate (however your family defines "inappropriate") sites, it's not that simple. Lots of "trusted" kids are getting into trouble by meeting strangers face-to-face offline because we fail to teach them the danger of these things.
Parents have to remember that whether or not we understand how the Web works, or even how to turn on a computer, we are still the parents. We are still in charge. We still have the better judgment. We can't cop out by saying we "trust" our children. We have to make sure that we teach them to be trustworthy, and how to avoid dangers posed by others.
As parents, we each teach our children how to make responsible decisions. We need to recognize that their tech skills far outdistance their judgment. It's our job, as parents, to fill this gap with our greater experience and judgment. (No one ever said parenting was easy.) Bottom line: It's not your kids you have to distrust, it's the millions of others online. We have to arm our children with the skills they need to stay safe in this environment, while still enjoying it.
Remember: You're still the parent. The Internet hasn't changed that. (Are you starting to see a pattern here?)
